Ibimenyetso by’Icyizere mu Rukundo: Uko Wamenya Ko Akugirira Icyizere.

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Abakundana bicaye hamwe batuje, bagaragaza urukundo rufite icyizere n’ubusabane bwimbitse.
Abakundana bari kumwe mu mwanya wituze, bagaragaza urukundo rufite imizi n’icyizere.

"Yamurebye mu maso atuje, aramubwira ati: ‘Nguhitamo buri munsi. Si uko ndi mwiza cyane, ahubwo ni uko nzi ko ndi kumwe n’umuntu uzi agaciro kanjye, n'umutima wanjye.'"

Urukundo nyarwo ntirwubakira ku marangamutima y’ako kanya gusa. Rwubakira ku kintu kirambye, gifite imizi: icyizere. Iyo ukundana n’umuntu ugufitiye icyizere, wumva ituze ritari iryo kubeshya. Wumva uri mu rugo, n’iyo mwaba mutari kumwe.

Iyi nkuru ishingiye ku buhamya bwanjye bw’urukundo nigeze kugira. Nifashishije amazina ahinduwe, ariko ibyabaye ni ukuri. Nari mu rukundo na Elina, umukobwa utuje, wubashywe, ariko unafite ububasha bwo gukiza umutima washenguwe.


1. Yambwiye ibikomere bye byeruye, nta kubihisha na gato.


Twari tumaze ibyumweru bibiri gusa dutangiye kuvugana neza. Umunsi umwe, twicaye ahantu hatuje, ambwira n'ijwi rituje:

“.Nigeze kubabazwa cyane mu rukundo. Hari umuntu nari narizeye, ariko yangiriye nabi bidateye kabiri, ntago yanyihanganiraga ngo anyumve. Byarambabaje cyane. Ariko sinshaka kukugereranya na we. Wowe ndashaka kukubaha, no kukwizera buhoro buhoro.”

Ibyo ni byo byambwiye ko Elina atari umuntu ushaka gusa kuba mu rukundo — ahubwo ashaka kubaka icyizere, ku buryo buhamye. Guhishura ibikomere byawe, ni kimwe mu bimenyetso bikomeye by’uko ushaka gukundwa by’ukuri.


2. Yankomezaga no mu gihe ntari mu buryo. 


Hari igihe nanyuze mu bihe bikomeye: nta kazi, nta kigaragara imbere, nari narengewe n’ubuzima. Naramubwiye nti: “Numva nakureka, kuko ntacyo nkumarira.”

Yaramwenyuye, areba kure, arambwira ati:

“Kubera ko ntacyo umpa? Ntukeke ko ndi kumwe nawe kuko ukomeye. Ndi kumwe nawe kuko ngusanga aho uri hose. Ubu ni wowe nizeye, si ibintu ufite.”

Iryo jwi rye rituje ryampaye imbaraga. Nararyamye ijoro ryose nsenga, nshimira Imana kumpa umuntu nk’uwo — udafata icyemezo ashingiye ku by’ako kanya, ahubwo ashingiye ku mutima.


3. Yari ihumure aho abandi bampaga igitutu.


Umunsi umwe telefoni yanjye yabuze umuriro amasaha menshi. Sinabashije kumusubiza ubutumwa. Mu mutwe wanjye, natekerezaga ko ashobora kuba yarakaye, cyangwa yumva natangiye kumwirengagiza.

Nabonye ubutumwa bwe bugufi, ariko bwuzuye ubwitonzi:

“Nizere ko umerewe neza. Sinshaka kukubaza byinshi, sinshaka kugushyira ku gitutu. Ariko nkuri hafi, buri gihe.”

Wigeze wumva ubutumwa buhagarika umutima, ariko bukawutuza icyarimwe? Ubutumwa bukuvugira ibyo utari wakwivugira? Elina yari ibyo kuri jye.


4. Yambaye iruhande igihe isi yandengaga.


Hari abavandimwe banjye batari banyishimiye, bavuga ko ibyo nkora nta mwanya bifite mu buzima. Umunsi umwe, umwe muri bo yamubwiye amagambo akomeye, amubwira ko azabura byinshi naramuka atandetse.

Nyuma y’icyo kiganiro, Elina yaranyegereye, atanyitaza. Yambwiye amagambo ntazibagirwa:

“Ntabwo nkunda ko bankomeretsa, ariko birandenga iyo bambwira kureka umuntu nizeye, umuntu ukomeje guhatana. Sinkwizeye gusa. Ndagushyigikiye.”

Iyo wizewe n’umuntu, yumva ko mugize team, aho kuba abanyuranye. Iyo icyizere gihari, umuntu ahora yifuza kuba ku ruhande rwawe — atari uko ibintu bigenda neza, ahubwo kuko yumva agukomeyeho.


5. Yarandekaga ngatuza! Atambangamira.


Igihe kimwe nari mfite akababaro gakomeye, n’amarira yuzuye mu mutima. Sinashakaga kuvuga, sinifuzaga no kuvugishwa.

Elina yicaye hafi yanjye. Nta kintu yavuze, nta kibazo yambajije. Ariko yandambitseho akaboko, ambwira ijambo rimwe gusa:

“Ndahari.”

Iryo jambo rimwe ryandutiye ibihumbi. Ibyo urabyumva ariko? Hari ubwo umuntu akugaragariza urukundo rutari urw’amagambo, ahubwo ruri mu kurebera hafi, no kumva ukeneye ituze aho ibisobanuro biba bikiri kure.


Isomo: Urukundo nyarwo rwubakira ku cyizere, si ku masezerano gusa.

Urukundo rutagira icyizere ni nk’inzu yubatswe ku musenyi — irasenyuka iyo umuyaga uje. Ariko iyo icyizere gihari:

Muganira uko muri,

Mumenyana uko mwakomeretse,

Mugendera hamwe n’iyo inzira itoroshye.

Ufitiye umuntu icyizere ntumukeka buri gihe. Ntumucira imanza igihe yakererewe. Ntiwigira umucamanza, ahubwo uba umufasha.


Ubutumwa bwa nyuma: Aho Elina yansize urumuri.

Mbere y’uko Elina ajya kwiga mu kindi gihugu, yansigize agasanduku gato. Ndacyagafite. Karimo inyandiko igira iti:

“Ndagenda, ariko icyizere cyanjye kirasigaye. Nubwo ari ndende, iyi nzira sinyinyuramo njyenyine. Tuzabonana, ariko icyizere cyanjye kirakubamo no mu gihe ntahari.”

Ayo magambo ndacyayabika. Buri munsi ndayasoma. Ntiwamenya uko amagambo meza, yubakiwe ku kuri no ku cyizere, ashobora gukomeza umutima.


Wowe musomyi, dufatanye gutekereza:

Ese uwo mukundana arakwizera?

Ese wowe umwizera ute?

Ese iyo mutezanyije ikibazo, mugikemura mute?

Sangiza iyi nkuru umuntu ushaka kwereka ko umwizera, cyangwa wandike igitekerezo cy’uko wamenye ko umuntu agufitiye icyizere.


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